As I’ve read over the discussion it has occurred to me that the real core issue is our attitude toward women.  A lack of respect for women can certainly lead to exhibitionist dress.  However, the attitude of the second group – those who lay all the blame for men’s lust squarely on women’s shoulders –  doesn’t demonstrate a respect for women, either. This group actually behaves as if women are a liability, stumbling blocks just waiting to happen.  We cannot afford to pass on either of these attitudes to our daughters!  (Well, or to our sons, of course!  But we can’t teach our daughters that this is how they should viewthemselves.)

If we teach our daughters that they are treasures – and actually hold this attitude ourselves – we avoid falling into either ditch.  Young ladies who treasure themselves do not go about dressed as though they belong in a red-light district.  However, neither do they believe that they exist solely to tempt men by their very existence, so they don’t go about trying to pretend they aren’t female!  They dress in a lovely, but modest fashion that acknowledges the worth and individuality God has placed within them.